Seeking short video essays on the following topics surrounding homosexuality and marriage…

(This site is in the very early stages of production.  Please stay tuned.)

The primary focus of this site will be to find find the right people (LDS homosexuals, and in equal proportion family/friends of LDS homosexuals) to create 5 minute video segments for Youtube, which will provide testimonials (stories) for certain topics, like:

– Starting w/ the positive…what they/we love about the church and its members.  Thoughts on how far everyone has come.

Then move to the appeal…

– How homosexuality is not a choice (stories of folks feeling these inklings from very early age, or seeing their loved ones struggle with it from an early age)

– How homosexuality does not go away (stories of folks who have tried, and failed, to “un-gay” themselves, or of loved ones who have watched them try)

– Concerns that the church’s requesting of lifelong solitude/loneliness is perhaps not realistic, and is potentially sad, cruel, and unreasonable (stories of folks who have tried living without intimacy, and what that was like)

– Concerns that the way we (Mormons, church members) treat gays can lead to depression/suicide (videos from the Matis family would be amazing here)

– Why members should care

– How marriage is a good thing — for gays included
How/why this activity against Prop 8 might hurt the church (seeing that the church tries to paint itself as not involved in politics — also this might end up being yet another thing that the church has to “undo” and apologize for in the future)

– How/why Pro 8 is a bad idea

– How sometimes even the brethren make mistakes — and how they’ve always encouraged us to think for ourselves, and to follow the spirit.  This can help us feel better about respectfully disagreeing on this political issue.

The videos that we put up MUST sync w/ the following:

– Each video must be under 5 minutes, but folks can submit multiple videos

– Must be based on stories and personal experiences

– The folks must be compelling story tellers (articulate, thoughtful)

– The videos must be of relatively decent production quality (video and audio)

– They must align w/ the topics we decide (like the ones listed above)

For those who can record their videos on their home machines (on a Mac, it’s super easy) that is ideal (as long as the audio and video quality are good).

For those without audio/video equipment, we’re looking into setting up video studios in SLC (around Sunstone), in Atlanta, and hopefully in California and in the New York area to make it easier for folks to capture video.  If anyone has the means to support — please let me know.

Finally, if you are interested in recording a video segment, or know someone who might be, please email: mormonsformarriage@gmail.com

Also, please help spread the word!!!!

Comments
2 Responses to “Seeking short video essays on the following topics surrounding homosexuality and marriage…”
  1. Corey Kilpack says:

    Good luck with this project John. I hope you are wildly successfully.

    I especially hope to input from members in California.

    All the best.

  2. Kathy says:

    Hey John,

    I love your project. God bless you for it. I have no talent with video producing, but I would love to share a few comments and thoughts. I have a wonderful gay young friend who works for me and my husband. He is from a very active LDS family. They kicked him out when he was 17 years old because he came out of the closet. I don’t judge them, they thought they were doing the right thing with what they had. He is now 27 so this was 10 years ago. At the time he was seminary president at a school in our state in an area dubbed “little Salt Lake”. His parents solution was to send him to BYU to go through aversion therapy they had for gays at that time. He refused and let them know that rather than choose unhappiness and living a lie he would be choosing to live an authentic life and this is why he was asked to leave home.

    He and I have had wonderfully deep talks about what he wants for his future. We have spent many many hours speaking of his desires for someone special in his life, his desire to settle down with one person, and his absolute love for children. I have watched him with my grandchildren. They love him to death and think that he is one of the coolest and most interesting and entertaining people in the world.

    This week he and I traveled to a city 4 hours away to visit with my daughter who is in dental hygiene school. She hasn’t been around “our Stephan*” that much and was amused and entertained by his great sense of humor. In the middle of hysterical laughter she said “Mommy, lets adopt Stephan.” I could see that her exclaimation touched him deeply.

    Several weeks ago Stephan’s mother came to visit him at the store after not hearing from him for a few weeks. He introduced her to me and I told her how much we were enjoying having Stephan work for us, what a wonderful son had she raised, how beautiful a soul he had, and how much we loved him. She shook her head and said “yes, he is”, but with this sadness in her eyes. I’ve seen that sadness before in the eyes of the mormon mother. Heck I’ve had that look of sadness in the eyes myself for a wayward child. But what hurt me the most for this mother was this isn’t a wayward child. This was a young man who knew from the time he was very young that he had same sex attraction. This is a young man who knew from a very early age that he was not at all into girls. Truthfully when he came out of the closet his family was not all that surprised, but surprised or not he still was a sinner, not only a sinner but perhaps a painful reminder of their perceived personal failure to raise a good and righteous son.

    But they are wrong and thats why I hurt so much for mom. I hurt because she is missing a beautiful relationship with her own flesh and blood incumbered by her clouded lenses that say “my son is flawed.”

    A few months ago, my lds girlfriend, who struggled and struggled with a wayward daughter of her own said to me “Kathy, Heavenly Father, finally kicked me in the head to the point that I listened this time. After all these years trying to get my daughter to be what I wanted her to be he said ‘Julie, I’m not the one that has the problem with your daughter. You are. I love your daughter, You are the one with the problem, and its called love. Its called looking at her through my eyes and the way I see her. Give up the fight and succumb to love.” Her entire relationship with this daughter has changed and she at last is beginning to enjoy the girl and build on what is good instead of intense focus and obsession with what is wrong.

    This is why I hurt for Stephans’s mother. I am the one enjoying this young mans friendship. There is so much goodness in him. He has the most beautiful smile that lights up his whole face, infectious laughter, a creative and artistic mind. Love, kindness, and compassion for others and many many other great qualities that contribute to a good society, and she is missing out. I know she is a good woman, I know because Stephan speaks well of her and his upbringing. I know because he says to me “I wish I could talk to her like I talk to you. I wish I could tell her how much I would love to have one special person in my life. I wish we could cook together like we did when I was young, or decorate or paint the house or do all those bonding things we did before I came out of the closet without the underlying pity I feel from her. I wish she could truly love me for who I really am. I hope someday to have a marriage with someone I love. I long for acceptance and to have my partner loved and part of a large happy extended family who support, encourage, and care for each other.”

    Because I’ve grown to love this young man, I cannot in my heart deny him this sort of love. I cannot in my heart deny him the right to be happy and love someone special anymore than I could deny it to my hetrosexual sons and daughters. Because of the love I’ve grown to have for this young man I could never turn down the invitation to attend a ceremony between him and someone who chooses to love him back, nor could I deny the happiness it would bring me to see him happy. Morally, and ethically I cannot say, you don’t deserve to have that one special person in your life, you don’t deserve to have the companionship, nurturing and emotional support that comes from marriage, you don’t deserve to have that kind of happiness and security just because you are a homosexual man who is attracted and drawn to the same sex.