Why You Can Support All Marriages

As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, our faith teaches us that the family is central to our Heavenly Father’s plan of happiness, therefore we defend the freedom of all His children to seek happiness according to the dictates of their own conscience as it pertains to who they love and how they form a family. We see this stance as a matter of personal political choice and not religious dissent. The following quotes from General Authorities of The Church of Jesus Christ as well as passages from Latter-day Saint scripture, fortify our belief in these principles.

“Regarding whether church members could disagree with the faith’s opposition to legalizing same-sex unions and still remain in good standing, [President Thomas S. Monson] said the answer “depends on what the disagreement is…If it’s something political, there is room for opinion here and there on either side.”
— Deseret News

“Latter-day Saints are free to disagree with their church on the issue without facing any sanction, said L. Whitney Clayton of the LDS Quorum of the Seventy. “We love them and bear them no ill will.”
— Salt Lake Tribune

“Church leaders use a list of questions that are provided for [issuing temple recommends] and are instructed not to add any additional requirements.” (emphasis added)
— LDS Church spokesman Cody Craynor in Public Statement

“We consider the voting franchise to be almost a sacred thing. People have a right to express themselves. If there is one fundamental doctrine in which we believe, it’s the principle that the Lord has endowed every one of his children with agency, the opportunity to choose in this life. In a political sense, that means that in those societies that allow such choice to be made, that they have the opportunity and choice to exercise their voting franchise – agency – and they do that however they see fit. You have Latter-day Saints across the political spectrum in this country and in other countries.”
— Elder Lance B Wickman, Emeritus member of the First Quorum of the Seventy Pew Research Religion & Public Life Project

“Latter-day Saints are not asked to blindly accept everything they hear. We are encouraged to think and discover truth for ourselves. We are expected to ponder, to search, to evaluate, and thereby to come to a personal knowledge of the truth. Brigham Young said: “I am … afraid that this people have so much confidence in their leaders that they will not inquire for themselves of God whether they are led by him. I am fearful they settle down in a state of blind self-security. … Let every man and woman know, by the whispering of the Spirit of God to themselves, whether their leaders are walking in the path the Lord dictates.” We seek for truth wherever we may find it… Yes, we do have the fulness of the everlasting gospel, but that does not mean that we know everything. In fact, one principle of the restored gospel is our belief that God “will yet reveal many great and important things.”
President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, of the First Presidency (CES devotional)

“As a church, nobody should be more loving and compassionate. Let us be at the forefront in terms of expressing love, compassion and outreach.”
— Elder Quentin L. Cook of the Quorum of Twelve Apostles, quoted from the LDS website MormonsandGays.org

“Just as those who promote same-sex marriage are entitled to civility, the same is true for those who oppose it…. While these matters will continue to evolve, we affirm that those who avail themselves of laws or court rulings authorizing same-sex marriage should not be treated disrespectfully. The gospel of Jesus Christ teaches us to love and treat all people with kindness and civility—even when we disagree.”
Letter from The First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles to LDS congregational leaders throughout the United States

“Article 9 – We believe all that God has revealed, all that He does now reveal, and we believe that He will yet reveal many great and important things pertaining to the Kingdom of God.
Article 11 - We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.”
The Articles of Faith of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

We believe that religion is instituted of God; and that men are amenable to him, and to him only, for the exercise of it, unless their religious opinions prompt them to infringe upon the rights and liberties of others; but we do not believe that human law has a right to interfere in prescribing rules of worship to bind the consciences of men, nor dictate forms for public or private devotion; that the civil magistrate should restrain crime, but never control conscience; should punish guilt, but never suppress the freedom of the soul… We do not believe it just to mingle religious influence with civil government, whereby one religious society is fostered and another proscribed in its spiritual privileges, and the individual rights of its members, as citizens, denied.”
— Doctrine and Covenants Section 134: 4, 9

“Given the history of persecution that members of our church have endured, it’s easy to understand why the principle of religious tolerance is very important to us. But just as important as claiming this privilege for ourselves is the responsibility of all Latter-day Saints to preserve and protect this right for others – which means we may occasionally have to stand up for someone else’s right to a religious practice with which we don’t necessarily agree.” 
- Elder M. Russell Ballard, Our Search for Happiness: An Invitation to Understand the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 1993, pg.98. 

As disciples of Jesus Christ, we are united in our testimony of the restored gospel… But we are diverse in our cultural, social, and political preferences. The Church thrives when we take advantage of this diversity and encourage each other to develop and use our talents to lift and strengthen our fellow disciples.”
- President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, April 2013 General Conference

Both creative science and revealed religion find their fullest and truest expression in the climate of freedom […] I admire men and women who have developed a questing spirit, who are unafraid of new ideas as steppingstones to progress. We should of course respect the opinions of others, but we should also be unafraid to dissent—if we are informed. Thoughts and expressions compete in the marketplace of thought and in that competition, truth emerges triumphant. [….] Only error fears freedom of expression. [….] The free exchange of ideas is not to be deplored as long as men and women remain humble and teachable. Neither fear of consequence or any kind of coercion should ever be used to secure uniformity of thought in the church. People should express their problems and opinions and be unafraid to think without fear of ill consequences […] We must preserve freedom of the mind in the church and resist all efforts to suppress it. We should all exercise our God- given right to think and be unafraid to express our opinions…”
President Hugh B. Brown, former member of the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles (Speech given at Brigham Young University, March 29, 1958)

“In this, as in all other matters, members are free to accept or reject the counsel of the First Presidency. Freedom to discuss the merits of any public issue is a legitimate exercise of citizenship, recognized and encouraged by the Church. This can be done without indulging in ridicule or attacking those with opposing views.”
Ensign Magazine, 1980

And now, as pertaining to this law, verily, verily, I say unto you, I will reveal more unto you, hereafter; therefore, let this suffice for the present. Behold, I am Alpha and Omega. Amen.”
— Doctrine and Covenants Section 132 : 6 (Revelation given through Joseph Smith the Prophet, at Nauvoo, Illinois, recorded July 12, 1843, relating to the new and everlasting covenant, including the eternity of the marriage covenant and the principle of plural marriage.)

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