It’s Getting Better at BYU

Thanks to Kendall Wilcox, who says, “As part of the quiet launch of the website we’re releasing the It Gets Better video from the BYU-USGA students. Congrats to them all for sharing their story of hope for LGBT Mormon youth. Please share the video with others!”

6 Responses to “It’s Getting Better at BYU”
  1. FirstTime says:

    Tears of joy in my eyes as I watch this video. As a heterosexual member of the church, I have struggled with my own beliefs in marriage equality for all and tried to reconcile that with the actions of a church I love. Coming to this site from time to time has comforted me in knowing there are like-minded members out there. This video is demonstrates incredible courage by those who made it. I literally have never been prouder of my BYU degree than I am right now, having watched these students speak so courageously. I realize this video was made primarily, and rightly so, for those struggling with same gender attraction and wondering if there is a place for them inside Mormonism. I hope those who made this video will not mind if I also take from it hope of a different sort – a hope that with corageous students like these, we can begin to create a culture in our religion where all members can feel equally loved and supportive of a society that acknowledges marriage equality for all. Thank you, brave ones.

  2. M says:

    Excellent video. Honest and emotional members of BYU who are gay share their thoughts and feelings with us.

    As a gay LDS (former BYU student), I can also add my testimony to this. Life IS good and it CAN get better. God loves me and everyone of his Children. He knows who we are and accepts it. We should, too. And, we should accept everyone else, too.

    Thank you for your bravery and your honesty. You are all noble heros.

  3. Liz says:

    I am grateful for this video. Homosexuality needs a voice in the LDS church. I left the church because I did not want to be apart of a religion that doesn’t allow me to be who I am. African American and Blacks were given rights in the 70′s perhaps the same will happen for gays and lesbians. I am not holding my breath or anything but I do think it’s amazing what these students all said in this video. Being this way is not a choice. We are born this way.

  4. Robynne says:

    Wow. Thank you for this video. So moving. I know if the stories of real people are heard more understanding will spread.

  5. Clayton Trapp says:

    I don’t know how to make the Gay community feel better but I hope that you find peace in your lives. I think everyone of God’s children suffer from something that is a burden to them and I’m no different. My parents always taught me to not criticize others unless I was perfect. I struggle with my own set of temptations which are not the same as yours so I can’t empathize completely but I do know what it’s like to be human and so from that common ground I can have an understanding.

    The thing that I disagree with is how the “Gay” community tries to shame the rest of the world because we don’t happen to believe the way that you do. As a convert to Mormonism, I know that feeling and so I hold your actions of trying to change my mind equally as contemptible as you claim the LDS Church is trying to change yours. If this action is not true then why do you have a website with donors names on it? Is it to find them and congratulate them? Seems to me that you could find them and commit hate crimes against them. Perhaps a little payback for how they have made you feel? Not very Christian or Saint like at all.

  6. fiona64 says:

    Dear Clayton:

    I’m going to ask you this question from the perspective of a straight, married woman who has no real dog in the fight other than what I’m about to talk about.

    Which of your rights would it be okay to put on the ballot for other people to decide whether or not you get to keep? Because that, my friend, is what happened with Proposition 8. Gay and lesbian couples had the right to marry *stripped away from them* in large part due to the financial input of the Church of LDS.

    Here’s the thing, Clayton. Once a majority thinks it can (or should) vote on the rights of minority? You have a little thing called tyranny. The 14th Amendment says that everyone is to have equality under the law. Proposition 8 has been found by two courts (so far) to be in violation of that amendment.

    No one is asking you to “change your mind.” I’m just trying to get you to understand that once you put one group’s rights on the ballot for other people to decide, *your* rights could be next.

    As for that website? It’s run by the CA Attorney General. By law, anyone who donates above a certain amount to any political issue, regardless of which side, is listed on that site. It’s part of the “Sunshine Act,” so people know where the money is coming from. Your accusation that people who support marriage equality would go “commit hate crimes” against donors to Prop 8 made me laugh out loud. You let me know the next time you hear of roving gangs of gay and lesbian people beating up and/or killing straight folk, okay? Because it will be a *first.* On the other hand, though, hate crimes against GLBT people go *up* every single time something like Prop 8 passes, because there are people out there who think it proves their hatred and homophobia is “righteous” somehow. You can read for yourself here:

    Finally, if you want to talk about what is Christ-like or “Saint-like,” I hope you will ask yourself whether Jesus had any codicils on “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Because, you see, I can’t find anywhere in Jesus’ words where he says “unless that person is GLBT.”